30: The Psychology of Perceived Emergencies
How do you handle emergencies?
I don't mean the 9-1-1 cases.
This week, I've had several clients share their "emergency situations" that popped up in their lives. This prompted me to reflect on how we perceive and respond to these moments. I've certainly been in emergencies myself, and there are definitely ways we can make things either better or worse.
And it's not just this week. For 20 years as a psychologist, I've heard many stories of these non-911 situations described as emergencies.
Perhaps this is how you got your needs met in childhood. But as an adult, constantly labeling things as emergencies can lead others not to take you seriously. When really, you can get help by simply asking for it and expressing that you're overwhelmed or stressed out.
When our minds perceive something as an emergency, it triggers our stress response, kicking it into high gear and taking our thinking brain offline and pushing us into fight, flight, or freeze mode. This is a basic instinct designed for true dangers, like a bear chasing you.
The problem is that when we react this way to non-emergencies, we can end up making poor choices, which can lead us to feel even more overwhelmed.
While 911 isn't always the appropriate choice, asking for help is.
My clients were able to talk through their challenging situations with me, realizing their brains went straight to panic and worst-case scenarios, when really, there wasn't enough information to warrant worrying about those outcomes. We explored various options, developing game plans beyond their initial thoughts.
Here's what I cover today:
How to differentiate between true and perceived "emergencies."
The physiological impact of perceiving everyday situations as an emergency.
Why it's important to regulate emotions before taking action in stressful situations.
Practical techniques for emotional regulation, such as box breathing.
The role of setting boundaries and allowing others to face consequences in non-emergency interpersonal conflicts.
The value of asking for help and brainstorming solutions with others.
The importance of taking time to assess a situation when no one is in immediate danger.
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction to Emergency Situations
00:44 Defining a Real Emergency
02:05 Perception vs. Reality of Emergencies
04:08 Emotional Reactions and Coping Mechanisms
05:31 Practical Steps to Handling Emergencies
09:20 The Importance of Emotional Regulation
17:05 Real-Life Example: Lost Wallet While Traveling
20:43 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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