57: Dare to Lead: Why Defining Your Values is a Game-Changer
In this episode, we're diving back into the Dare to Lead framework, focusing on the crucial step of defining our values. Before taking the Dare to Lead workshop myself, I honestly thought knowing my values was just interesting knowledge, like an Enneagram or a personality test. But I quickly learned how profoundly life-changing it can be.
We often walk through life just reacting—getting mad in traffic, yelling at our kids over a mess, or feeling overwhelmed when someone calls us for help. We feel as if we're out of control, simply reacting to life.
But the truth is, we all have values, and they may be unconsciously driving our thoughts and feelings. Getting clear on them — and narrowing them down to just your top two — is an absolute game-changing tool for figuring out what direction to take when life throws challenges at us.
Values show us who we want to be.
I'll walk you through the process to narrow your values down to just two or three. Once you've identified your core values, you can create a system to make the best choice with the information you have in just about any situation.
You'll also hear a personal example of how applying my values of authenticity and generosity transformed a common reaction (passive-aggression or blame) into an intentional response (getting curious, having a conversation, and problem-solving).
Holding strong values helps us build trust and connection not only with others but also with ourselves.
Key Takeaways
Values are life-changing tools that help you figure out how to make tough choices and face hard things in ways you're proud of.
Narrowing values down to your top two makes decision-making much clearer and less confusing, also preventing decision fatigue.
Identifying values by thinking about qualities you admire in others and qualities that frustrate you can help you narrow down your own list.
Learning to use values to respond to conflict can help you solve problems and build trust, rather than gossiping or reacting in anger.
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction to Dare to Lead & Values Work
00:14 The Importance of Defining Values
01:26 Real-Life Applications of Values
08:12 The Process of Identifying Your Values
12:01 Making Decisions Based on Values
18:06 Conclusion and Invitation to Dare to Lead
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