36: Setting Boundaries: The "Let Them" and "Let Me" Approach
Listen, there's no good girl star.
So, how about we prioritize our happiness and only let kind people into our lives?
This is the topic I'm covering today, as the mantra "let them" became my go-to the other week.
You might already be familiar with Mel Robbins' "Let Them" philosophy, which can lessen overwhelm and improve relationships.
The theory she explores in her book, “Let Them,” is that we will feel less stress and have better relationships if we let others be who they are, without any interference or judgement.
And in this episode of The Overwhelm Cure, we explore this concept as a practical strategy to reduce our stress and overwhelm so we can free up mental space and energy to look after ourselves.
“Letting them” requires us to fully accept people and their choices.
I get it, it can be hard when we disagree with the decisions or actions of loved ones or friends. But then, there’s the freedom we experience when we get to focus on ourselves and take care of our needs.
Key Takeaways:
Breaking down Mel Robbins' "Let Them" theory helps us let go and allow others to be themselves, making their own choices and effectively taking the stress and pressure off ourselves.
We often try to change others in an effort to control them, thinking it'll lead to our own peace and happiness. BUT — this usually robs us of our unique journey and learnings while increasing our stress.
By adopting the "Let Them" approach, we take our power back and can shift our focus from controlling others to managing our own reactions — freeing up the mental and emotional energy that we'd otherwise spend getting frustrated and angry.
Going beyond "Let Them" and using "Let Me" when we need to take actions to protect ourselves, such as setting boundaries, having direct conversations, or limiting contact.
Putting our mental health and wellness first, we evaluate relationships, recognize when they’re depleting rather than nurturing, and make choices that prioritize our peace.
This episode will help you understand how to apply the "Let Them" and "Let Me" principles to create more calm, peaceful, and fulfilling relationships in your life.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction to Overcoming Overwhelm
00:46 Identifying Sources of Frustration
02:40 The Concept of 'Let Them'
05:03 Accepting Others and Focusing on Ourselves
08:02 Implementing 'Let Them' in Real Life
09:07 Going Beyond 'Let Them'
10:50 Setting Boundaries with 'Let Me'
15:11 Final Thoughts and Invitation
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