35: The Importance of Checking In
Today I'm talking about something incredibly simple yet profoundly impactful: checking in.
Recently, my oldest daughter moved out for university, and it was a surprisingly difficult experience for me.
What truly helped actually surprised me.
A friend picked up the phone (like with an actual call) to see how I was doing. It was such a small gesture, but it made me feel so cared for. It really meant a lot to me.
As parents, professionals, or even just women who spend a lot of time and energy looking after others, we often don't get that same care in return. That's why I'm realizing the importance of us taking the time to check in on each other.
Whether it's a quick call or even a text message, it can make someone's day.
Really, it's a highly underrated yet essential way to connect and nurture the people we care about.
As a psychologist, I see firsthand how loneliness is a real and growing problem — even an epidemic in many countries.
What I'm doing:
I've found it helpful to keep a list of people I want to connect with more often. Then, I schedule time to reach out to them to check in and, in some cases, make plans.
If you find yourself craving more connection and even deeper connections, be the one to reach out. As nice as it would be, our loved ones can't read our minds.
So, don't be afraid to reach out and ask a friend if they'd like to grab a coffee.
Here's what you'll find in today's episode:
A simple check-in can take 30 seconds and be the thing that completely uplifts someone's mood.
How I'm nurturing my connections today: Reaching out demonstrates that we value people — we're investing our time and energy.
How a quick text, email, or phone call can help lessen feelings of loneliness.
Why, if you're craving connection, I invite you to take the initiative and be the one who reaches out.
A reminder that if your friends and family aren't checking in on you, don't take it personally. Don't be afraid to ask for support when you need it.
How checking in on others not only helps them but also contributes to your own happiness and well-being.
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction & Watching My Daughter Move Away for College
01:47 The Importance of Checking In
03:43 The Power of Connection
08:56 Practical Tips for Reaching Out
13:55 Building and Maintaining Relationships
17:31 Overcoming Loneliness and Expanding Your Network
19:31 Acts of Kindness
21:26 Final Thoughts and Professional Support
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