32: The Lies We Tell Ourselves: Overcoming Guilt and Overwork
"Is this as good as it gets?"
"Is this really all there is?
If you've ever asked yourself these questions, you're not alone. And you might also be focused on productivity and getting things done (totally reasonable!)
The thing is, we often turn to these unintentional strategies when we get overwhelmed in an effort to make our lives easier. But we end up making things much harder.
While our brains try to simplify things, we end up cutting back on the very things that truly nourish us — sleep, fun, and even silliness.
We cut back or cut out the things we often perceive as "nice to haves" or "extras" — but should actually be non-negotiable. We tell ourselves it's temporary and that when we have more time, we'll bring back in the "extras," but these cutbacks can quickly become new, unsustainable habits that neglect sleep, socializing, and fun, leading to burnout.
Drawing from my recent Courageous Leaders Mastermind Retreat in the Rockies, I saw how this was showing up in women's lives right now.
In this week's episode, I dive into the three main problems contributing to this unsustainable cycle: being overly focused on productivity, ending up tired and grumpy from self-deprivation, and seeing basic self-care as selfish.
I also address the lies our brains tell us about needing to control everything and everyone.
It's time to realize that you are just as important as everyone else and deserve an extraordinary, fulfilling, and fun-filled life!
Here's what you'll learn today:
How the attempts to simplify our lives can inadvertently lead to more overwhelm.
The reasons why we tend to give up nourishing activities when we're overwhelmed.
Why self-care, rest, and connection are essential, not just "nice to haves."
How to identify and challenge those tricky self-sacrificing thought patterns.
Practical strategies for prioritizing tasks and incorporating joy into your daily life.
3 powerful and practical solutions to help you shift your mindset, make good choices by prioritizing and delegating, dreaming big about what truly makes you happy, and intentionally changing unhelpful thought patterns.
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Unintentional Ways We Complicate Our Lives
00:28 The Cycle of Overwhelm
01:59 The Importance of Rest, Connection, and Fun
05:24 The Three Problems Contributing to Overwhelm
10:02 Three Solutions to Take Back Your Time and Joy
15:44 Changing Your Mindset for Better Self-Care
19:12 Conclusion: Taking Control of Your Life
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